You already have a personal brand whether you realize it or not. Here’s how to make sure it serves you rather than hurts you.
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “brand”?
Maybe it’s a logo, or a color scheme, or your favorite clothing designer or automobile manufacturer.
A logo, while representative of a brand, is not the brand itself. The brand itself is rooted in how that product or service makes you feel. What you can expect from them. The consistency of the delivery.
Strong brands are built from consistency and trust.
This is why you can walk into a McDonald’s in Toyko, or Boise, Idaho, and know immediately you are in a McDonald’s.
This is why…
Good men take pride in holding themselves to higher standards than society expects from them.
“Being a male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a gentleman is a matter of choice.”
Not a choice made once or twice during one’s life, but a series of choices made every single day when navigating the world, and life.
So — what then — are these choices that separate the gentlemen from the rest of the pack? The men who hold themselves to higher standards. Let’s explore.
1: A good man is kind to everyone.
A man of quality is never afraid of equality. There is no reason to talk down to, or disrespect anyone who you…
Great relationships aren’t about give and take, they’re about give and give.
Great relationships aren’t about give and take, they’re about give and give.
Of the hundreds of articles I’ve written, at least 75% are about how men can improve themselves and be better partners for the women in our lives.
Here’s what we almost never talk about, though: Men need affection, too.
Psychology Today once made the distinction: Our newsfeeds are so flooded with negative press about bad men doing bad things that we have almost accepted the perpetual narrative that men are inherently untrustworthy or unloving.
While these men are prominent in media coverage, they are not your husband. Your partner. Your boyfriend or significant other.
Odds are, that dude is just…
It’s easy to get overly excited about that new person you just met, but real love can’t (and shouldn’t) be rushed.
You met someone new. Yay!
Everything seems to be going great. You’re texting all the time, he facetimes you when he gets off work, she sends you cute emojis when you first wake up.
The feelings are strong, you’re starting to talk about things like meeting family or taking that weekend trip a little quicker than usual, but something about this just feels “right.”
Different than the last times.
Alright…it’s faster than usual and the last times you’ve done this it didn’t really work out…but this time it’s different.
…right?
Listen — there are plenty of times when someone REALLY…
Honestly answering these questions can save you needless heartbreak and years in the wrong relationship.
“He’s changed!”
“She never acted like this in the beginning!”
I’ve lost count of how many times someone has told me they’ve felt fooled or surprised at how their partner’s personality seemed to “change” after they entered into a committed relationship. Sure, there are PLENTY of manipulative people in the world who lie their way into your hearts, but there are also A LOT of red flags that get overlooked in the beginning of a relationship and, inevitably, reveal themselves over time.
Ask yourself these questions the next time you’re determining whether or not someone is the right fit for…
Great relationships aren’t about give and take, they’re about give and give.
We’ve ALL been in a relationship at one point where we put in more effort than our partner. Loved them more. Cared for them more. Gave more of ourselves…and didn’t want to admit it for far too long.
Maybe we didn’t even realize it until the relationship ended, or until we met someone who matched our efforts.
Or maybe we did see it, but we turned a blind eye.
Whether you want to avoid another experience like this, or you’re trying to figure out if this is the space you’re in now, here are 7 red flags that your relationship…
Dating is an opportunity to create the love life you’ve always desired…if you choose to see it that way.
“I just want to skip the dating part and go right to the phase where we’re comfortable on the couch together.”
This is what someone I’m coaching said to me on one of our recent calls.
Relatable? Yes. Realistic? Eh, not really.
For anyone single and dating in 2021, though, you probably feel this in your soul. Dating can be a tedious and exhausting task, and complaints about it are one of the main things I hear from men and women alike.
“It’s so hard to find the right person.”
“Nobody is serious about commitment.”
“Do men ever actually GROW…
The right relationship will enhance your life, not complicate it.
The right person will enhance your life, not complicate your life.
Have you ever settled for for “it’s complicated” because you’ve just assumed that’s how every relationship must be?
Your partner is hot and cold, off and on, incongruent with their words and actions.
But, they’re still sticking around, so they must want to be with you…right?
Unless, maybe, they’re not leaving for the same reasons that you’re not leaving.
It’s easy to mistake attachment for commitment. If they keep coming back or sticking around even when things are clearly not working, that can feel like dedication to you or the relationship.
If they wanted to leave, they would.
Says the…
The first step to getting what you deserve is knowing who to look for in the first place. The next step is understanding what they’re looking for in return.
It’s a controversial thing to say that someone is “high quality,” because it implies that some people don’t fit the bill. Let’s be honest, though, there are dishonest, manipulative, and toxic people in the world who’ve not worked to earn the title of being “high quality.”
What traits DO high quality men exhibit, then? And, how can you stand out from the crowd to attract them:
1: He keeps his word.
An undeniable quality of a man of value is that he keeps his word. He is reliable, trustworthy, you can count on him, and you know that when he says something, he means it.
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Setting healthy boundaries in (all) of your relationships is the key to even better emotional health. Here’s how, and why, to do it.
Why do we find it so difficult to set boundaries in our personal lives? Even people who accomplish high levels of professional success can fall into negative patterns of dating — or even marrying — people who they know deep down are bad for them.
We are all human, and understanding that regardless of our title at work, this universal truth still remains the same is paramount to taking control of our personal happiness and fulfillment.
Setting boundaries is about honoring the most important commitment you’ll ever make: The one to yourself.
Being able to do so first starts with…
James Michael Sama
International speaker, writer, & adviser helping you build happier relationships. Seen: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. JamesMSama.com: 38 million+ views.
