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10 Defining Traits of a Real Man
Because society seems a bit confused.
As someone who grew up around strong male and female role models, my controversial opinion is this:
Boys and men are seriously lacking good quality male role models to look up to in modern society.
That is one of the reasons I started writing, speaking, and coaching more than a decade ago, in an attempt to be an arbiter of logical and civilized discussion around what it takes to be an emotionally mature man.
It’s also the reason I put together my upcoming 2nd book, The 100 Tenets of Good Men.
Emotionally mature men — REAL MEN, are capable of loving, protecting, caring for, and opening up to their loved ones (and themselves). They have layers, depth, and aren’t afraid to be introspective.
I believe that our society has a longstanding tradition of stifling the emotional growth and exploration of boys and men along their journey of self discovery. We are told that showing emotions or vulnerability is “weak,” and largely encouraged to pretend that everything is fine, even when it’s not.
However, there has been a shift in recent years to cultivate a more open and honest discussion about the human realities we all…
