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11 Habits That Make You Instantly More Attractive

(Hint: It’s not about your appearance).

7 min readApr 3, 2025

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What does it mean to “be attractive?” I’ve always wondered this myself, because it seemed like something that some people just were, while others, well…weren’t.

Like it was a gift, magically bestowed upon a few select people who we all were all drawn to as a result.

By attractive, I’m not just talking about people that you want to sleep with, or want a relationship with. Some people just have that…je ne sais quoi that makes you want to be in their presence. Be their friend. Learn from them. Or, sure, be their lover.

Part of the enigma of what it means to be attractive is that it means something different to everyone.

There is no universal definition of “attractive”, which is precisely what makes it attainable to everyone.

However, I believe that if you look at attractive people across the board, you will notice some similarities between them.

Here’s the kicker: It’ll have nothing to do with their appearance.

That’s what we’ll get into here — how you can create your own version of what works best for you.

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama

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