12 Signs You Have Strong Emotional Boundaries

You can’t control how people act, but you can control what you tolerate.

James Michael Sama
13 min readMay 26, 2024


Emotional boundaries are a sign of self love. They are a set of guidelines that you decide for yourself which dictate the treatment you will (and won’t) accept from other people. What’s more — they also dictate the treatment you will (and won’t) accept from yourself.

It’s of the utmost importance that you remove toxic and negative treatment and influences from your life, but when most people hear this, they assume that it means removing negative people. In most cases, this is true — but it’s also important to remember that we, in many ways, can be our own worst enemies.

Laziness, sub-par nutrition, sedentary lifestyles, negative self-talk…it all takes a toll on us mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Setting strong emotional boundaries begins to raise the standard you hold for yourself and from others.

What, though, do the people capable of doing so all have in common?

Let’s explore:

1: You manage your own self-talk.

The way we talk to ourselves is, for most, a passive and impulsive narrative that pops into our head and bounces around for as long…



James Michael Sama

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