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12 Traits Men Need to Attract Strong Women

Strong women require confident men.

James Michael Sama
6 min readFeb 9, 2025

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I think men often look at ambitious, successful, and high-value women and become confused about where they can add even more value to her life. Men have been (falsely) conditioned to think that our worth comes from our ability to “provide” and if she doesn’t “need” us then…well, she doesn’t want us either…right?

The truth is this: No matter how much a woman makes, how well educated she is, or how well-established her life is — you can add value by being a healthy partner, a friend, a lover, and a teammate in her life.

NONE of those things have anything to do with how much money you have (or don’t have).

It does, however, have to do with harnessing the qualities listed below and showing up as your full, authentic self.

These are the traits of men who attract the women who don’t “need” them, but definitely want them.

1: They have their own ambitions.

A woman cannot plan a future with a man who hasn’t planned a future for himself.

Imagine the divide between a couple where one person is striving for their own version of success and greatness, while the other shies away from hard work, is lazy, unmotivated, and entitled…

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama

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