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12 Vital Signs of True Compatibility

Love is NOT all you need.

James Michael Sama
11 min readFeb 4, 2025

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Recently I decided to try putting honey on a banana. I eat bananas often before or after the gym. Equally as often, I also have honey on whole wheat toast.

Naturally, then, I wondered how I’d enjoy them combined together.

I was not a fan.

They’re better enjoyed separately, in my opinion.

Some people feel this way about peanut butter and chocolate (which is ridiculous, they’re an amazing combination).

Or, pineapple and pizza.

You probably have two foods that you enjoy separately, but would not combine them together.

This is the same reason why compatibility outweighs almost every other consideration within a relationship, yet we seem to overlook it more often than not.

Yes — it is even more important than love.

How, you might ask?

While emotions are the driving force behind relationships, there is a layer of logic that must be applied as well.

As I’ve said before, you can have two people who are simply not good for each other.

You can have two people who, separately, are happy, healthy, and productive individuals…but when you combine…

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

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