15 Signs Of True Emotional Intimacy

Real intimacy is non-physical.

James Michael Sama
11 min readJan 13, 2023

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The first thing most of us think when we hear the word “intimacy,” is, as we’d expect, the verb of being intimate. The physical reality that manifests itself between two people who love and care for each other.

This manifestation, however, is fueled by a deep and meaningful emotional bond that brings us together in ways that create a feeling of safety, trust, attraction, and desire.

Mind you — I’m not just talking about sex. Anyone can have sex—but not everyone will put in the time and work that it takes to build real, lasting, intimacy.

Below, we’ll discuss the feelings and experiences you and your partner will share when emotional intimacy is truly present between you.

1: You’re comfortable being fully vulnerable with each other.

Being physically naked in front of someone is one thing…being emotionally exposed is entirely another.

Considering the insecurities most of us feel about our appearance, we may tacitly assume that being physically open requires an immense amount of trust in ourselves and our partner — which, of course, it does.

However…exposing ourselves to them emotionally is a completely different experience where we feel as though our very identity, our very sense of being, is laid out in front of another person with the hopes that they will accept, value, and love what they see.

That feels like a far greater risk, but it also offers a far greater reward.

The reward is the freedom to be your truest self in their presence.

When you’ve both taken the chance and opened up to each other in ways that you never have before, you gain the freedom to stop hiding the parts of yourself that you have in the past. You give yourself (and your partner) the gift of who you truly are without the mask on, without the act, without the show.

You are truly you, and they are truly them.

Once that vulnerability is established, both partners have the duty to maintain the trust that is given. That, however, is the greatest gift that you can give or receive.

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James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama