5 Clear Ways To Recognize Healthy Love

Look for these green flags.

James Michael Sama
6 min readOct 10, 2024

--

We live in strange times. Dating lingo like ghosting, love bombing, hardballing, and whatever-ing are being thrown around. We meet people by swiping our finger across an electronic handheld device. We can talk to multiple people all at once without ever using our voice or leaving the couch.

No wonder people are confused about what healthy love is actually supposed to look like. Our brains are constantly flooded with attention and attraction, but these things do not equal love.

The points in this article are written to give you a clearer vision of what healthy love looks (and feels) like, so you can recognize it when it pokes its head up above the surface of blank faces in your “matches” column.

1: Healthy love lets you feel free.

Never mistake possessiveness for love. Yes, the person you’re with should be proud to be with us and enjoy spending time with you, but healthy love allows you to continue being yourself, seeing your friends, and pursuing your passions.

Obviously, if your passions are things that were only appropriate to do when you were single, then that’s a different discussion altogether. The point is that healthy love does not restrict you, discourage you, or hold you…

--

--

James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama