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5 Proven Strategies For Attracting The Love You Deserve

You don’t need someone to complete you, only for someone to accept you completely.

Material items are not the only things people search for in order to fill an emotional gap. Perhaps even more common is the search for a partner in order to accomplish the same goal. Not surprisingly, this is an equally ineffective method. Maybe even worse.

  • You will already be living a passionate life reflective of your truest self.
  • You will feel immediate tension or conflict if someone’s values are out of alignment with yours.
  • You will be able to recognize those whose presence in your life will fully complement it so you can grow together.
  • You will be clear on what you are or aren’t willing to compromise in a relationship.

Challenge yourself.

Consider an area of life where you feel the most confident. Perhaps it’s a skillset at work. Maybe your level of fitness. Maybe you’re a quick learner or a fast reader.

Reframe failures as learning experiences.

We ALL fail. The most successful among us have missed more shots than most people ever take.

Focus on one step at a time.

It’s easy to become overwhelmed when setting a goal. Maybe you need to lose 10, 20, or 50 pounds. Maybe you’re training for a 5k and have never run before. Maybe you want to run a million dollar company but you’re still in college.

Run your own race.

I used to be a pretty fast runner when I was a kid. I remember running an event in middle school and I kept looking back at the runner who was behind me. Inevitably, this slowed me down because of the extra energy it took to turn around and mentally I lost focus on the finish line ahead of me, too worried about what someone else was doing.

Prioritize learning.

One of the best ways to build self love is to put time and effort into your mindset. As we accumulate more knowledge we have the ability to perform at a higher level in all areas of life, which in turn allows us to accomplish goals more effectively, and then feel better about ourselves.

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International speaker, writer, & adviser helping you build happier relationships. Seen: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. JamesMSama.com: 38 million+ views.

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