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5 Signs You’ve Been Putting Yourself Last For Too Long

You can’t pour water from an empty cup.

Many of us are taught that caring for others is a noble trait, and often times we garner a sense of significance or contribution from it. While it is important to be a positive influence in the lives of others, many of us fail to draw a line to define when it starts actually harming us.

1. You’ve lost sight of what your identity is.

Priorities in life add up quickly. Kids, career, relationships, all of the things that make us who we are. Each of these aspects require our energy and attention, sometimes to an overwhelming extent.

2. You don’t maintain healthy boundaries.

The boundaries we set for ourselves are reflective of the standards we have set and the amount of self-worth we hold. Failure to set or maintain boundaries in our personal life sends the message that we will accept any level of treatment, no matter how harmful or negative.

3. You have a hard time making important decisions.

Important decisions are often guided by our internal compass. Our identity and purpose drive us in the direction that is most aligned with what is important to us.

4. You’re resistant to being alone.

Sure, it can be more fun to be around people — but there’s a difference between wanting to be around others, and relying on being around others.

5. You’ve given up on your interests and passions.

What are the things that you truly love doing? Reading books? Painting? Skiing? Archery? Taking your metal detector to the beach?

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International speaker, writer, & adviser helping you build happier relationships. Seen: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. JamesMSama.com: 38 million+ views.

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