7 Lessons From The World’s Best Communicators

Because there’s no replacing real life interactions.

James Michael Sama
7 min readJan 18, 2022


Long before the pandemic began, there were lots of complaints about conversation skills falling of track because everyone had become so used to texting, or emailing, or WhatsApping, or Tik-Toking, or…you get the idea.

And then…WHAM, a global pandemic forced us all to isolate ourselves from each other and dive even further into these other modes of communication to remain connected.

The problem became exacerbated by feelings of loneliness, depression, disconnection, and hopelessness. Was it ever going to end?

Whether or not it ever totally goes away, we are left living with the effects, and, as life keeps moving forward, we must navigate best path possible for ourselves.

So now, as we crawl out from inside our shadowy Zoom-caves, how can we re-evolve past grunting at each other on the street, or texting each other across the room?

If you spend time around and observe people who are world-class communicators — I mean literally — people who speak words for a living, you’ll notice (and feel) commonalities that are exactly what make them so great in the first place.

1: They put their phone away.

It had to start here. It HAD to.

“It’s fine, I leave my phone face down on the table.”

Well, it’s not fine, and I’ll tell you why.

Our phones have become an extension of ourselves so much so, that it’s easy to forget where we even are sometimes. People are literally crossing the street looking down at their phones. They’re on dates on their phones. They’re hanging out with friends…on their phones.

“Hey, wanna come over and scroll on our phones while we sit next to each other?”

I’m all for the occasional selfie (obviously), or photo of the beautiful scenery or meal you just ordered, but once you’ve captured the moment, it’s time to actually enjoy it.



James Michael Sama

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