7 Reasons You Miss Red Flags

(And how to spot them).

Do you find yourself repeating patterns of overlooking (or completely missing) red flags with people you’re dating?

Before you know it, you’re a few months into a relationship and things are going completely sideways — again.

How is it that this keeps happening? What patterns do we, ourselves, tend to perpetuate that keep us with the wrong people?

Here are some tricks your subconscious mind keeps playing on you — and once you recognize them, you can work to stop them.

1: You’re focusing on their *potential*.

Perhaps the most common of the reasons is that we see someone for who we want them to be, or who they’re capable of becoming.

While recognizing someone’s potential can provide a glimpse into the future, we cannot date potential. We must date the current reality of someone while they work to grow into the next version of themselves…

…as long as they are actually growing, and not just being stagnant while promising to…someday…grow.

I know you want to see the best in people. I know you want to help them along their journey. I know you want him or her to already be the person they might someday become…