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7 Reasons Your Lover Should Be Your Best Friend
You can have a friendship without a relationship, but not a relationship without a friendship.
Friedrich Nietzsche once said: “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
This concept serves to teach us the importance of building a foundation for happiness that stretches beyond intimacy into friendship itself.
1: Friends see [and accept] all sides of each other.
When dating, we typically only want to show someone our best self. We are always well put together, well behaved, and well mannered. Of course, we should consistently try to be these things as often as humanly possible, but the fact of the matter is that we are all going to have bad days. We get stressed, we get sick, we face challenges. Life throws us curveballs — and expecting a shining exterior every second of every day is not only unrealistic, but it is also dishonest.
It doesn’t matter when you roll over in bed with no makeup on, a fever, and swollen eyes — a true friend (or lover) will love and take care of you just the same. Someone who is just in it for the sex or as a fling, will not.
