9 Signs He’s Mature Enough For A Real Relationship

I wasn’t always ready to show up in a relationship the way I needed to. Here’s how I knew that changed.

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1. He’s living with the future in mind.

I have a tendency to live in the moment. To make decisions based on what I see in front of me and what I want immediately. Purchasing something that wasn’t a good investment, pursuing someone I knew wouldn’t lead to a lasting relationship, ordering takeout even though I was trying to lose weight.

2. He only says what he means.

It takes a man who is secure in himself to stop saying things just because he thinks you want to hear them.

3. He won’t avoid uncomfortable conversations.

As an extension of #2, sometimes we avoid conversations we don’t want to have because they’re awkward, or could hurt someone’s feelings.

4. He’s not just trying to get into your pants.

Don’t get me wrong, obviously a healthy sex life is an important part of a happy relationship. My point here is, the sex isn’t going to be the end goal.

5. His intentions are genuine.

How do you know the difference between someone who’s just playing a role and someone who’s genuine in their actions?

6. You don’t intimidate him, you inspire him.

Great relationships function as a team. You will have strengths he doesn’t have, and vice versa.

7. He faces challenges head on.

Whether it be in his personal or professional life, something shifts in a man when he stops being afraid of rejection.

8. He prioritizes you.

When I was younger, I just wanted to do what I wanted to do. I had no interest in making decisions that affected two people, so I purposely stayed single for a long time while I lived my life in whatever way I chose.

9. He always encourages you to be even better.

Relationships are the strongest when both teammates are lifting each other up. Encouraging, inspiring, supporting.

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