9 Traits of a High Quality Man (And How to Attract Him)

The first step to getting what you deserve is knowing who to look for in the first place. The next step is understanding what they’re looking for in return.

James Michael Sama
6 min readMar 11, 2021


It’s a controversial thing to say that someone is “high quality,” because it implies that some people don’t fit the bill. Let’s be honest, though, there are dishonest, manipulative, and toxic people in the world who’ve not worked to earn the title of being “high quality.”

What traits DO high quality men exhibit, then? And, how can you stand out from the crowd to attract them:

1: He keeps his word.

An undeniable quality of a man of value is that he keeps his word. He is reliable, trustworthy, you can count on him, and you know that when he says something, he means it.

This is only something that can be proven over time as he shows you that he is consistent and genuine. Keeping someone’s word once or twice, or only when things are going well, is something that anyone can do.

Staying consistent and keeping promises (both to you, and himself) is where his true colors come through.

This is reflected in how he lives his own life. Is he inconsistent with habits and routines? Or, does he respect himself enough to build stability and congruence with his actions?

2: He makes you feel safe.

For years I have said that the greatest compliment a woman can give a man is that she feels safe with him. Not just physically safe, but emotionally safe. Spiritually safe.

Does he support you, encourage you, elevate you? Or are you always concerned about his mood, his criticisms, his outbursts?

You cannot fully trust or be at ease around a man who is volatile in his temper and his mood. Maintaining composure and having done the work in order to be in control of his emotions (instead of the other way around) helps you feel a sense of comfort and safety around him at all times.

3: He is present.



James Michael Sama

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