Love requires daily mutual effort. — Who even has the time? You mutter to yourself as you read an endless stream of headlines online about romance, dating, chivalry, courtship…many of which, probably written by me over the years. Whoopsie, no pressure. Different types of advice apply to different people in different stages of life, but what…

Real confidence is a choice. — I used to believe that confidence was something simply bestowed on a lucky few upon birth. Some people just had it, while others were left wishing for it. In my mind during this phase of life, I was always in the “other” category. …

Every man should have a code. — When I first started writing back in 2013, I was focused on these missions: To help men become better versions of themselves. To help them understand relationships and attraction. To help them gain confidence, and to stop living in the shadows of others. Now, a decade and 40 million+ views…

To go fast: Go alone. To go far: Go together. — How many jokes have you heard over the years about marriage? Ye ol’ “ball and chain,” as it were? Many think it’s become LESS advantageous to enter a marriage (particularly for men), and we seem to be generally less likely to form monogamous commitments in the first place. I do…

They deserve better. — I genuinely believe that most people don’t intentionally do things that hurt their partner or make them feel the things we’ll discuss in this article. It is, however, important to understand that intention and impact are two different things. What I mean is, even if you don’t mean to spark…

Without safety, nothing else matters. — Attraction is called just that for a reason, it’s rooted in two people that are drawn to each other in a way that feels magnetic. It’s not always a conscious or deliberate event, as you’ve felt when you’ve said “I don’t know what it is about him/her, but…whew.” Real attraction…

Is your heart open to receiving it? — It doesn’t matter if you find the man or woman of your dreams if you’re not ready to have them in your life. Timing and emotional availability are two of the most overlooked aspects of any relationship’s success. I’ve written hundreds of articles about what good men and women do…

Stop buying the hype. — Rich! Handsome! Tall! Godlike physique! Superior intellect! Infinite altruism! Pedigree bloodline! Men frequently become overwhelmed and discouraged by the social narrative that is fed to them from early childhood. What a man “should” look like, how a man “should” act, what abilities a man “should” have. Many grow up with…

The people that everyone wants to be around. — Je ne sais quoi: “A quality that cannot be described or named easily.” We’ve all met people who have it — that…thing that draws us to them, but we just cannot put our finger on what it is. It’s a pull, a magnetism that makes you want to be in…