Are false expectations your worst enemy? — One thing that has always fascinated me about us as humans is that, one of the most fundamental pieces of our existence often goes the least understood. That is — relationships. In every other area of life, we seek knowledge, develop skills, make a plan, set goals, create a strategy…

If things aren’t working — change them. — Dating is frustrating. Relationships are hard. Sometimes, you feel as though the “right person” for you might not even exist. Or, you’re at least convinced that they must live on a different planet — or maybe just outside of your usual stomping grounds. Here’s the truth that most people don’t…

You’ll recognize these traits in them. — Je ne sais quoi: “A quality that cannot be described or named easily.” We’ve all met people who have it — that…thing that draws us to them, but we just cannot put our finger on what it is. It’s a pull, a magnetism that makes you want to be in…

Important conversations are important. — I popped my family onto a plane this week to come to my sister-in-law’s tropical destination wedding. Being married myself, and immersed in wedding planning over the next few months, the weight and magnitude of lifelong commitment are on the mind. Of course, as a coach, writer, and speaker on…

Like Elsa said: Let it go. — Life is a matter of perspective. Healthy perspective, though, is something that we must choose. As humans, our default setting is survival. This means that we notice, instinctively, dangers and potential threats at every turn. It’s how biological evolution has wired us (thankfully). However, that doesn’t mean that every little…

Actions are loud. So is their absence. — You’ve probably spent too much time in the wrong relationship because you overlooked (or missed) the subtle signs that someone was just not giving their full emotional investment. Sometimes, these signs can be more glaring than others, and it’s easy to overlook the smaller ones when we are caught up…

What is “real love” actually made of? — “How do you know when it’s true love?” A question that has entered the minds of humans of all ages over the eons of our existence. Is it rooted in infatuation? Compatibility? Emotional connection? A feeling of comfort? A combination of the above? I believe that, just as much of…

Are you pushing her away without realizing it? — “You don’t know what you don’t know.” This quote reverberates in my mind when I think about all of the things I’ve not experienced, seen, or learned (yet). I cannot even begin to fathom what they might be — because, well, I don’t know what I don’t know. It’s sort…

What if *gasp* it’s NOT about appearance? — What do you think of when you hear the word: “Sexy”? For most, particularly the men (ahem, sorry guys…) it’s directly tied to an outward appearance. A certain visual image we hold in our mind for what we consider to be physically attractive in another person. While a physical appearance…