If you DON’T think dating is a competition, just talk to the men who always feel like they’re being ignored, passed over, or “friend zoned” while the woman they’re interested in chooses another guy. — This may be an unpopular stance, and likely a taboo way to describe it, but as someone who spent the first two decades of life “losing” (repeatedly) at the dating game, I can assure you that it feels more like a competition to men than we let on.