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Be Willing to Suck

Every expert to ever live was once a beginner. Their greatest advantage was the willingness to start from square one and refuse to give up.

James Michael Sama
4 min readNov 22, 2020


Think of how many things we never accomplish because we aren’t willing to suck at first.

How many people have avoided joining a gym (pre-Covid) because they were embarrassed of looking foolish, or weak, or not knowing how to use the equipment?

How many happy future marriages never happened because someone couldn’t muster the courage to approach the person they were attracted to?

How many salaries were given to someone else because a candidate chose not to interview for their dream position?

The very thing that we avoid is the most important thing we need to dive into: Sucking at something.

How do we adopt this mindset?

First, stop being so focused on the outcome, and begin enjoying the journey. This is what life is really all about — the journey itself. There is no end outcome besides the obvious one all of us humans face, because life is constantly evolving and changing around us.

We are in the middle of a global pandemic that sprung out of nowhere less than a year ago, altering every human life on the planet. Plans changed, family dynamics changed, relationships changed, careers changed. For those who’d been focusing on an end outcome that has now been taken away or put on pause, there is emotional devastation.

You, yourself, likely have more than one example of being thrown off course in life by a changing circumstance. We all have, that’s the way reality works.

Each day, though, is the journey itself.

For example, if you have a fitness goal, achieving the goal itself cannot be the only thing you find fulfillment in. If it is, you’ll hate every moment of the process because you’ve not yet reached your goal. And when you finally do, the feeling of satisfaction will be fleeting because there is nothing else to look forward to.

If you enjoy the journey, however, every single day provides you with a positive experience that you can hold on to. The feeling of progress, preparation, the…



James Michael Sama

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