Before You Marry Someone, Look For These 20 Traits

The biggest decision of your life shouldn’t be taken lightly.

We spend a lot of time talking about the red flags to look for in a partner or relationship. But, what about all of the positive signs that someone may actually be different from the rest and give you all that you deserve?

Isn’t that what we’re looking for, anyway? So, why not understand what it looks like so we’ll recognize it when it shows up…?

Here are 20 positive signs that someone just might be the real deal.

(Hey, listen, I know that not everyone wants to get married — the idea here is that someone who does these things and possesses these qualities is a rare catch, a diamond in the rough, the “total package,” if you will. And, when you are fortunate enough to find someone like this, they should be valued and cherished — marriage, or not).

1: They treat everyone with kindness and respect — not just you.

When you’re building a relationship with someone new, they’ll always be putting their best foot forward. They’ll be on their best behavior and do whatever they can to win your affection — as they should.