Don’t Be Fooled By These Toxic Traits Masquerading As Love

Not all that glitters is gold.

There’s something that I advise my clients to do which I understand is immensely difficult: Take consistent inventory.

What do I mean by this?

What I mean is: Check in with yourself on a consistent basis regarding how you’re feeling about your partner and your relationship. And then, have the courage to do something about it if you don’t like what you see.

This is very difficult to do because we are caught up in the excitement and passion of a new relationship. We let certain things slide, we overlook (or ignore) red flags, we almost convince ourselves that we’ve finally found someone worth dating.

But — if you begin seeing red flags at 3, 6, 9 — or 12 months down the road…they are still very real and need to be acknowledged.

I think that many toxic relationships persist over time because our level of commitment to the person becomes greater than our level of commitment to our own standards and self-worth.

We must maintain the clarity required to notice things that are “off,” no matter how subtle, and then do something about it.

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