Don’t Trust Someone Who Does These 8 Things

Trust is a privilege that must be earned.

Ah, trust — the cornerstone of every type of relationship we’ll ever have. Trust serves as the foundation of respect, of admiration, of friendship, of LOVE. We cannot build a solid professional, personal, or intimate connection with a person whom we don’t implicitly trust.

How, though, do we know if we can really trust someone? How do we know if their words can be believed or not? How do we know if we’re being…used?

Below, I’ll outline a few red flags to look for when determining whether or not someone is actually deserving of your trust.

1: They take YOUR support, but never give THEIRS.

You’re a loving, caring, genuine, and giving person…and you’re damn proud of it! These are amazing qualities to have, and help for you to build deep and meaningful connections with the people around you.

The people in your life know that you’ll always be there for them. They call you, text you, meet for coffee or a drink…and fill you in on all of their personal happenings, or seek your counsel.

The person you’re dating does the same. Trusted work colleagues do the same.

You’re the “go-to,” and it makes you feel important and meaningful.

The truth is that you are important and meaningful, but you are also a human who, at times, will seek the support of these same people in return.

Is there a person in your life who always seems to be “too busy” when you need them?

Maybe you’re dating someone who seems to distance themselves during your emotional hardships or times of need…

While you internally try to convince yourself that it’s okay, and that they’re just too busy, or are dealing with their own issues…you know deep down that this person is just never there for you, despite all of the times you’ve rushed to their aide.

Now, some may argue that not everyone is equipped to offer emotional support or advice, and in some cases, that’s true. It doesn’t make them a bad person, but it also makes it difficult to rely upon them in this area.