For 10 years I’ve been trying to get men to be more affectionate and communicative. When I first started my personal blog the entire goal was to help guys be better in life and love — they hardly listened.

My readership and following is about 80% female now. Many guys are just not the type to communicate their feelings or want to learn how to do it better — that doesn’t mean all of those men are bad people.

I wrote this article to show that just because someone doesn’t know how to express a feeling, doesn’t mean they don’t *experience* the feeling. It could help somebody see their partner’s actions in a different light.

You may not like me giving space to this conversation, and I agree that men need to step up and communicate more (which is why I’ve written hundreds of articles about it) but in the meantime it’s important to acknowledge that a lack of skill in an area does not equal lack of intention in said area.

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.

• James