Here’s How Emotionally Unavailable People Act In Relationships

Only date someone who’s ready to receive you.

James Michael Sama
11 min readNov 14, 2023

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Being “emotionally available” should be #1 on the list of every single person’s desires in a romantic partner, no matter who you are or what you’re looking for.

If this sounds like a big statement — that’s the entire point. Emotional availability is what opens someone up (or not) to love, affection, and mutual effort in the first place.

Without it, nothing you say, do, or are will ever be “enough,” because being “enough” isn’t the point — being ready for love, is.

How, then, can you tell that someone is not ready to receive you, no matter how badly you want them to be?

1: It feels like they’re LOOKING for problems.

Have you ever seen the meme of the kid riding down the street on his bicycle?

It’s framed like a comic book — in the first frame, he’s riding down the street, holding a stick.

In the next frame, he starts to put the stick in the spokes of his own wheel.

In the final frame, he’s laying on the ground, holding his leg, passing the blame onto something or someone else.

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

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