How To Be An Amazing Romantic Partner In 20 Steps

You attract what you project.

James Michael Sama
12 min readOct 17, 2024

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What are the makings of an amazing romantic and intimate partner? It’s not just about what you do, but who you work to become. It’s about small details, and also big gestures. It’s about feeling like home, but also an adventure. It’s about being fully present in the moment, and also looking to the future.

Let’s discuss 20 ways that you can be the best partner/spouse/husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever that you possibly can — because your partner deserves it, and so do you in return.

1: ONLY commit when you are fully ready.

Perhaps not what you’d expect as a starting point, but the foundation of being an amazing partner is actually being emotionally ready to fully show up for someone.

We all feel ready for different phases of life at different times, and need to give ourselves the time and space in order to grow into these phases at the pace that works for us as individuals.

You simply cannot show up as your best self for someone (or for yourself) if you don’t feel ready to commit to monogamy.

Get “it” out of your system first, whatever “it” is for you. For some, it’s travel, backpacking across Europe, freely exploring the…

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama