How To Know You’ve Achieved Deep Emotional Intimacy

The purest connection of all.

We all know what physical intimacy looks like. It’s the most obvious, direct, and primal showing of attraction. It’s visceral, passionate, and intense.

Physical intimacy, as I’ve argued often in the past, is a projection of emotional intimacy. Sure, we can share experiences with others that are strictly physical and don’t have an emotional component, but if we are seeking a deeper connection with someone — a connection that’s longer lasting, more fulfilling, and carries more depth…the physical projection is also going to be different.

Let’s, then, discuss the ways that emotional intimacy presents itself through physical actions that are less theatrical, obvious, and sexual.

1: You feel at peace in their presence.

We talk a lot about passion in relationships, but not quite enough about peace.

If we really step back and consider the amount of time we spend with our partner over the coming years and decades, what’s most of it going to look like?

Particularly for men, we think about the sexual experiences. Maintaining attraction and “spark” for the next 30, 40, or 50 years (maybe more).