How To Spot A Man With Emotional Depth

8 clear signs to look for.

James Michael Sama
5 min readApr 25, 2024

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What does it mean to have “emotional depth”? We all strive to be many things in this life — confident, fulfilled, successful, respected…but to have depth can help us build a deeper and richer human experience with healthier relationships.

How can you spot a man who has worked to cultivate emotional depth?

1: He is capable of being challenged.

Consider this: A man who operates on the surface level will never have roots deep enough to build security.

In case you’re wondering, yes, I did just come up with that.

What I mean, is this:

A man who has taken the time to build, cultivate, and solidify his position on something — no matter what it is — will be secure in that belief.

Imagine putting a stick into the ground. The deeper down you push it, the harder it is to knock over.

Men with depth don’t just snap or break the moment they’re pushed. They’re able to take a moment, assess what is going on, and respond — not react to the pressure.

If he reacts or goes on the defensive, odds are you have struck a nerve that is exposed and he’s well aware of it. We, as humans, are more bothered by…

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James Michael Sama

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