How To Trust Again When You Feel Fragile

(This goes for the guys, too).

Feelings of emotional fragility is perhaps one of the most overlooked conversations that we should be having, but aren’t.

First, credit where it’s due — this article is inspired by a conversation I had with a private student whom is emerging from a divorce and building a new and exciting life for herself. I keep all of my clients’ names and information private unless otherwise requested, but she’ll know who she is.

Now, let’s talk about how to dust yourself off and (eventually) learn to trust people again when that feeling of fragility keeps your walls up around your heart.

To begin, we must acknowledge that we are, in fact, fragile. Despite how the word itself sounds, there is no shame or weakness in admitting this. On the contrary — I’ve frequently stated publicly that I believe acknowledgment of our feelings is a sign of strength, because it means we’re willing to look and feel the difficult things. To avoid them is where weakness is created.

Acknowledgment of our own fragility can help us understand it. Where is the true source? How are we projecting this fragility in our actions and in the relationships around us? How is it affecting our daily life and the decisions we make?