How To Validate Your Partner’s Feelings

5 ways to make them feel truly heard.

The strongest relationships are built between two people who work to understand each other, respect each other, and make each other feel heard.

It sounds simple, right? Why, then, do so many people feel misunderstood or undervalued by their partners?

While it’s possible that these feelings are hinting at real underlying concerns in the relationship, I believe that, on a large scale, many people simply don’t understand the “how” behind making their partner feel valued and validated.

“James, I sit there and listen when they talk!”

Great! That’s a good first step, but validating someone’s feelings and helping them to understand that you are genuinely connecting with them in that moment requires more active and intentional effort.

Below, we’ll discuss a few ways that you can make sure you’re showing up for your partner when they need you the most, and helping to reassure them that you see, hear, and value them and their feelings

1: Rephrase and repeat their feelings back to them.

Don’t copy them like a parrot, but instead, paraphrase what they’re telling you and say it back to them in order to ensure that…