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If It’s True Love, You’ll Have These 15 Thoughts

“I love you” — 3 small words with big meanings.

James Michael Sama
9 min readNov 18, 2022

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Love, while in itself a feeling, is comprised of a variety of internal thoughts that we have over the course of a relationship.

When we say “I love you” to someone, there are implications that go along with it. Unspoken promises that we make. Things we think about our partner, the relationship, and ourselves, that have led us to this conclusion of: “This means love.”

Below, we’ll discuss some of the thoughts that are sparked when real and true love exists.

The thoughts that float in your mind when you look into the eyes of your partner and say the three little words that carry huge meanings: I love you.

These are just some of those meanings (and the commitments they carry with them) that aren’t said out loud.

1: “I fully accept you as you are.”

To love someone is to see them for who they truly are, beneath all of the filters, or the makeup, or that glorious Viking beard.

We must see and understand our partner beneath the surface. Intimacy and connection are built through uncensored honesty and vulnerability (we’ll get into this more later).

This, then, is a scary thought for some. The idea of actually revealing their truest selves to another person. What if they are judged? Seen differently than before? Looked down upon?

What if our partner leaves when they find out who we really are?

This, though, is the very risk of love. It is but a necessary risk, as true love cannot exist when only selective pieces of ourselves are shown.

We must be willing to be fully exposed to our partner — not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

When real love grows, it means that we’ve seen the faults, the insecurities, the weaknesses, the shortcomings…

And, we wouldn’t want them to be any other way.

2: “I will earn my spot in your life.”

Let me begin by saying this:

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James Michael Sama

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