Live Your Best Life By Mastering These 10 Skills

The habits and perspectives we approach the world with are what shape our reality. Here’s how to make it everything you’ve ever wanted.

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1. Learn to love yourself.

Loving yourself is not about gazing into your own eyes in the mirror, taking a million selfies, or complimenting yourself on Facebook. Self-love is about developing and recognizing your own value. It’s about working to improve and understanding that you are worthy of love and happiness because of who you are.

2. Be willing to be wrong.

Wait, how does being wrong help you live a better life? Because being wrong is the first step to learning something new. If you are always right (or think you are), then you won’t think there is anything new to learn. This would be it, right now. This would be the best you’ll ever be. The most you’ll ever know.

3. Decide what you stand for, and stand for it.

As the old saying goes, “someone who stands for nothing will fall for anything.” Our view of the world governs how we act on a daily basis. Each decision we make, big or small, will alter the trajectory of our life, and it is important that these decisions are in line with our values. So, without these values, our choices will bring us all over the map and we will find it increasingly difficult to live a fulfilling life.

4. Find a mentor.

This might be one of the most important ones. Some of my most profound enlightenment has come from just sitting around with friends who have already created the level of success that I strive for. The thing that I’ve found about successful people is that they are often willing to help others become successful, as well. Especially those who have made it by starting a business or taking a chance in life.

5. Develop patience.

If you are not already a patient person, it is an undervalued quality to possess. Considering how dynamic and challenging the world can be, someone without patience will constantly find themselves stressed out and on edge. This will in turn put stress on those around you and add tension to scenarios where it doesn’t have to be.

6. Stay well groomed.

Regardless of what your style of choice is, there is a right and wrong way to pull it off. When you look better, you feel better, and when you feel better — you do better. Your appearance plays a big role in how others see you, and how you see yourself (literally). Get up, dress up, and show up.

7. Compliment others.

Being able to recognize greatness in others is a quality only outweighed by your ability to let them know you’ve recognized it. If we make it a habit to regularly compliment others, it becomes apparent how rarely positive qualities are actually acknowledged in today’s society.

8. Always be respectful to those around you.

Real kindness is not something you give to people because of who they are, it’s something you give to people because of who you are. Whether you are on a date or just living everyday life, people are more apt to show respect to someone who shows it to them, in return.

9. Listen more than you speak.

If you need help developing this habit, just remember that you have two ears and one mouth, so you should listen twice as much as you speak. Not only will this give you the ability to absorb and learn more from the world and people around you, but it is also an important part of being a good friend or lover.

10. Be the first one to make a move.

Whether it be in intimate situations or in your professional life, hesitation often leads to regret. Start small, and make a commitment to yourself to take action immediately after a situation presents itself. It could be anything from picking up a piece of trash from the ground, to going in for the first kiss. It is better to look back on memories of “oh wells” than it is to look back on “what ifs.”

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International speaker, writer, & adviser helping you build happier relationships. Seen: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. JamesMSama.com: 38 million+ views.

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