Men Are Lost Because Nobody Is Guiding Them

Where are the role models?

I never fit in. Starting from childhood and my first years in school, I experienced bullying, challenges making friends, and as I got older — had absolutely zero success with dating and relationships. The irony of now being a top love and relationship writer here on Medium and building a career coaching people in these areas, is not lost on me.

Here’s the thing, though: As I got older and (theoretically) wiser, I understood the roots of why I was different. I’ve grown to be proud of those differences rather than confused by them.

If you’ve read my writing before, you know that I grew up in a traditional Italian family where values were adhered to, marriages lasted, and promises were kept.

My parents, to this day, are (sometimes overly) romantic, go on frequent dates, take trips together, and gush about each other on Facebook.

That is what I grew up seeing as “normal” in love and relationships.

My late grandparents were the same way, and would’ve been the same way online if Facebook existed in their era. They were married for nearly seventy years before they departed this earth.

Let me be clear: I am in no way, shape, or form saying that my upbringing or my perspective is any…