Only Commit To Someone Who Can Do These 15 Things

Healthy relationships are built over time.

Choosing a romantic partner to pursue a relationship with is a complex task. It requires us to look (honestly) at a person’s qualities, their compatibility with us, their personality traits, and their willingness to put in the same level of effort that we are.

One of the biggest keys, though, is what a person is (or isn’t) ready for. What they’re capable of bringing to the table. This is largely influenced by the phase of life they’re in — for example, being fresh out of a breakup or divorce will greatly stifle their abilities to show up in the ways that you need.

It doesn’t mean that they’re not a good person, it just might mean that they’re not good for you at this point in time.

Part of finding the right person is meeting them when they’re ready to receive you. A time that you’re both ready, willing, and able to do the work it takes to show up for each other consistently and authentically. To do what it takes to build a connection from the ground up.

Just as with building a house, a strong foundation must be built, first. You do not go in and start hanging decorations onto support beams. The structural pieces need to be complete before you get to the pretty stuff.