Relationships Require Skills. Here Are 5 Of Them

Happiness doesn’t happen by accident.

James Michael Sama
7 min readMay 28, 2024

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Words like “skills” or “strategies” or “methods” aren’t usually ones that we associate with something emotional and romantic like love, but the truth is that love isn’t just something we fall into, it’s something that we build alongside of another person. Together.

In this article, we’ll discuss some of the skills that I believe both lovers in a relationship must possess, or at least work to cultivate, in order for the relationship to thrive and flourish.

Self-awareness is important here, because if you feel that you (or your partner) are lacking in any of these areas, it’s worthwhile to focus on building them up in order to enjoy the benefits of doing so down the road.

Without further adieu…

1: The skill of setting emotional boundaries.

Emotional boundaries are imperative when building relationships because they are the parameters you set for the treatment you will (and won’t) accept from others, but also from yourself.

Boundaries empower you to say “no,” which is just as important as having the courage to say “yes,” and in some cases, even more important.

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James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama