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She’s Considering A Future With You: 15 Questions She Asks Herself
“Will he be there for me when I need him the most?”
The thoughts of women have been a mystery to men since the dawn of time. What do women want? What are they looking for in a life partner? For the love of god, where do they want to go eat?!
The obvious answer is — you cannot provide a universal answer that applies to billions of different human beings. Every person wants what they want, and is looking for a unique set of criteria in someone they’re considering building a life with.
As men, we have our own perceptions and assumptions. We figure that women are looking for the big muscles and the even bigger bank account. The chiseled jawline and the marble staircase. The high-powered job and the highly confident gent who occupies the seat at the desk.
This, however, is just the narrative that society (particularly American society) has fed to us. Women’s needs are far more nuanced and human than what can simply be checked off of some arbitrary list — and our existence as a partner to her must therefore meet the same depth in order to be considered.
Plus, let’s not forget that there are a lot of guys who check those boxes, and that it doesn’t in any way, shape, or form mean they’re going to be a good life partner.
So if the stories being told to us through the generations are sorely lacking, what is the truth?
I believe that we can get a solid grasp on what questions a woman asks herself when someone who might just be her “person” comes along.
My objective with this article is to help the men step outside of their usual thought processes and think a bit differently. To shift perspective, to put on a new lens, to step into a different zone of thinking, and as a result, (hopefully) gain a greater understanding of what it is women are asking themselves when looking at…well…you.
Let’s dive into fifteen questions that I personally believe are considered when the future is being considered. It is, after all, one of the most important decisions she (or you) will ever make.
