Stop Accepting These 7 Behaviors (From Yourself)

Ditch these negative habits for even higher confidence.

James Michael Sama
7 min readFeb 15, 2024


Signs of true self worth aren’t just seen in the things that you do, but sometimes, the things that you don’t do.

It’s easy to get caught up in reactive behaviors or mindsets when we are flooded with stimuli every single day. We’re scrolling through social media, becoming frustrated with a work deadline, having a disagreement in our personal lives — and before we know it, our mind is running away from us.

We start questioning ourselves, doubting our abilities, losing sight of the things that matter, constantly feeling a sense of dissatisfaction or inadequacy.

All of these things, of course, take a toll on our level of self-worth and confidence over time.

To develop true confidence, then, there are some behaviors we need to squash and reclaim control over.

Certain behaviors that truly confident people simply refuse to accept (from themselves).

Are they confident because they don’t accept these behaviors, or do they not accept these behaviors because they’re confident? The reason doesn’t matter, but the result does.

Let’s explore:

1: They don’t focus on things outside of their control.

If you know me in real life, you know that I am a pretty calm and even-tempered person. Very rarely do I appear as worked up, stressed, or [visibly] overwhelmed.

Now, of course, being a human like everyone else, I experience all of the same internal struggles and conflicts, but I’ve learned over the years to only freak out when there’s something worth freaking out over.

If something is outside of my control, I need to learn to accept it whether I like it or not. I can do my absolute best to influence the circumstances in my favor, but with the understanding that the outcome may not be what I desired.

This means being confident enough to know you can win, but humble enough to understand you might lose.



James Michael Sama

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