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The Full List Of What You Deserve In A Relationship

(In case you haven’t defined it yet).

James Michael Sama
23 min readJan 18, 2024

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I believe one of the big reasons that people don’t get what they deserve in life or in love — is because they’ve not worked to define what that really means yet.

It’s a cute fortune cookie phrase to say “don’t settle for less than you deserve!”

But, it falls on deaf ears if a person can’t really wrap their head around what it means. What does one “deserve” in love, after all?

I believe that good, honest, authentic, and loving people deserve everything that they’re willing to give to their partner in return. They deserve a high level of treatment because they earn that level of treatment by providing it to the person they love.

This is the essence of a healthy and successful relationship — teamwork. Reciprocity. The understanding that both partners are willing to put in equal effort to help each other feel valued, cherished, respected, and appreciated.

Let’s, then, dig into some of the actions, feelings, and behaviors that you deserve from someone that you’re committing the rest of your life to.

1: You deserve someone who’s done the inner work.

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James Michael Sama
James Michael Sama

Written by James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama

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