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The Guide to Evolving into an Even Better Man

Each new phase of life requires a further evolved version of ourselves. So, how do we go about creating him?

I often find myself contemplating how I can improve in all areas of life. How can I be a better boyfriend? A better son? A better brother? How can I be a better role model to my girlfriend’s daughters? How can I be a better friend? And most of all — how can I create an even deeper sense of pride in the man I have worked to become?

1. Go the extra mile, always.

One of the things I’ve begun doing lately is changing the way I say “thank you.” Whether it is a cashier at the grocery store or barista at the drive-through coffee shop, I always say some variant of “Thanks so much, I really appreciate it.” More than a simple “Thanks,” communicating a stronger sense of gratitude for someone’s service makes both of your days a little brighter.

2. Never make a promise you don’t intend to keep.

Darren Hardy once remarked:

3. Properly fuel your body and mind.

Simple, but so often overlooked.

4. Improve your communication skills.

Written, verbal, and non-verbal communication are the keys to expressing our ideas and our identity to the world.

5. Learn to cook well.

If we want to operate at optimal levels, both our mind and body must be properly fueled, as mentioned in point #3. Doing so with proper nutrition is not easily achieved if we rely on takeout or restaurant meals for the majority of our diet.

6. Practice gratitude daily.

The famous Jim Rohn once proclaimed: “learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” This simple but poignant lesson about gratitude helps to ground us when we put all of our focus on where we are going, at the expense of enjoying where we are.

7. Explore deeper conversations with those different from you.

The internet and social media have made it easier than ever to stay inside of our pre-chosen bubbles.

8. Take pride in grooming and appearance.

There is no one way any of us “should” look. As referenced in #7, variety and diversity are what make the world a very cool place to live in.

9. Practice patience.

The world is moving faster than ever, and we can access almost everything we want by opening an app on our phone. We can order food, find a job, or and even get a date with a swipe or push of a button.

10. Work to understand your relationships.

Particularly true for heterosexual men, a deeper understanding of the female brain helps us learn the basics of attraction, relationships, communication, and emotional connection.

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International speaker, writer, & adviser helping you build happier relationships. Seen: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. JamesMSama.com: 38 million+ views.

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