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The Modern Man’s Guide to Life and Love
Back at the dawn of time, men began using the excuse that “nice guys finish last” to convince themselves that they weren’t responsible for their own dating failures.
I know this, because I was one of them.
I did everything I thought women (girls, at the time) would’ve wanted. I was respectable, and “nice,” and waited patiently…just long enough for other guys to ask them out and miss my chance.
As I got older and learned the principles of attraction and social dynamics, all of my mistakes were glaring. If only I’d had the guidance to break free from the negative cycles back then.
This article is designed to serve as that guidance so you don’t have to make the same mistakes I did.
Here are 10 ways to evolve into the man you’re capable of becoming:
1: Reframe what it means to be “nice.”
Think about all of the people you consider to be a “nice guy.” What qualities do they have that you really admire?
Odds are, when you think of nice guys, you think of people who are passive, good listeners, do everything for people around them, and can get along with anyone because they seem to mesh into any group.
