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The Psychological Reason You Get Bored In Relationships
Keep the spark alive by prioritizing gratitude and excitement in your relationship.
Think about a time when you first accomplished a goal, got that thing you were saving for, or met the love of your life.
Feel the euphoria and excitement that overwhelmed you at the time.
Now, think about how you feel in the present moment. Hopefully you are still in love with your partner, still nostalgic about the goal, and still enjoy the “thing.”
But, it’s highly unlikely you feel the same intensity as you did in the beginning.
Enter: Hedonic Adaptation.
Despite how it sounds, no, I did not make it up.
Hedonic adaptation is most easily described as the feeling of getting used to something that was once enormously exciting. Essentially, the thrill fades and the person/place/thing simply becomes a daily part of life.
It’s why people with humongous houses will tell you it doesn’t feel that big, or why that piece of jewelry you saved up years for has been sitting unworn for just as long.
