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The Right Partner Will Give You These 15 Feelings

When you find them, don’t let them go.

James Michael Sama
10 min readOct 2, 2023


You, dear reader, have a unique and specific view of what “the right relationship” looks like to you. The “right” partner. The “right” needs and wants that you’re looking to have fulfilled.

That’s the beauty of living your life in full alignment with your identity — you get to craft it and make it your own.

I do believe, however, that there are universal feelings and desires that we all share as part of the human experience. The differing pieces are the packaging that they’re delivered in, but the internal feelings we seek are very much the same.

Below are some of the feelings that I personally believe we are all seeking from a partner and a relationship — and when you find them, you should do everything you can to hold on to them.

1: The feeling of peace.

I think that the feeling of peace is vastly overlooked and undervalued when it comes to seeking a partner and a relationship.

More often we talk about passion, excitement, adventure, attraction…

And, while all of those things are very important, relationships are multi-dimensional and, hopefully, will last a very long time.

There will be periods of time and phases in life where adventure is not the goal, but serenity. Living in a peaceful and calm environment, being able to simply sit and enjoy each other’s presence. Watch a sunset, or a sunrise. Enjoy a glass of wine, or a cup of coffee. Sit and watch a movie, or read a book.

Just…existing together.

These moments will be more frequent and longer lasting the further into the years we travel together — so their importance cannot be overlooked.

2: The feeling of gratitude.

Gratitude in a relationship is double-sided: We should feel grateful to have our partner in our life, and also know that they are grateful for us, as well.

When you feel a deep sense of gratitude for having this person, you truly value and appreciate them. You don’t put yourself in positions to jeopardize the relationship. You feel “lucky” that…



James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama