These Harmful Mindsets Are Blocking Love From Your Life

Are false expectations your worst enemy?

James Michael Sama
10 min readDec 4, 2023

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One thing that has always fascinated me about us as humans is that, one of the most fundamental pieces of our existence often goes the least understood.

That is — relationships.

In every other area of life, we seek knowledge, develop skills, make a plan, set goals, create a strategy. Yet, in our relationships with each other, we’re told it will just “work out” when we find “the one.”

Not only is this false and illogical, it can actually be harmful.

We can easily create or adopt a belief system about relationships along the road of life that we accept as reality, and then we measure every partner and connection we have against that “reality” we’ve created.

Below, we’ll discuss some mindsets that can get picked up along the way that, quite frankly, you should drop in order to have happier and healthier relationships.

1: “I’m looking for ‘The one.’”

It always surprises people to hear that I, the guy who’s generated millions of views writing about romance, doesn’t believe in “the one.”

Here’s why I think it’s a good thing that “the one” doesn’t exist:

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James Michael Sama

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