Tired Of Not Getting Your Needs Met? Do These 7 Things

You only get what you ask for.

Having your needs met in a relationship takes open and honest communication, clarity, mutual respect and understanding, and consistent conscious effort given by both partners.

Understanding this is the first step towards getting your needs met (and of course, working to meet your partner’s as well), because you begin to understand that, at least part of it, is under your control.

How, then, can you ensure that your needs get met, either in the relationship you’re in today, or the next one you’ll create for yourself?

Let’s discuss some actionable steps:

1: Define and understand what your needs actually are.

“James, I already know what I want in a relationship!”

This is an unidentified sticking point for a lot of people. I take my private clients through a helpful exercise of identifying their wants and their needs. Here’s an example:

“I want my partner to listen to me more.”

Alright, great! That’s a good thing to want — but why do you want it?

You need to feel heard. You need to feel valued. You need to feel understood…and you want them to…