Worrying About These Things Is Robbing You Of Happiness

Like Elsa said: Let it go.

James Michael Sama
8 min readNov 28, 2023


Life is a matter of perspective. Healthy perspective, though, is something that we must choose. As humans, our default setting is survival. This means that we notice, instinctively, dangers and potential threats at every turn. It’s how biological evolution has wired us (thankfully).

However, that doesn’t mean that every little thing our subconscious mind notices is actually worth spending (ahem, wasting) time worrying about.

Your primitive brain is telling you that every time you get rejected, it means the tribe has banished you into the woods and you’re now in danger of being eaten by a Sabre tooth tiger. Obviously, not relevant in modern times.

If we just tacitly accept every subconscious message our mind tells us, then, we’ll be stuck scurrying around avoiding every tiny perceived danger like a squirrel in the middle of the road.

Let’s take a moment and talk about a few of the things that are robbing us of our mental and emotional freedom, and are quite frankly, a waste of time to worry about.

1: Other people’s opinions.

How many decisions in your life have you made because of external influence? It’s okay — you can be honest, we’re all friends here.

For some, it’s the small nuances of daily life, like what they wear, or how they style their hair, or what car they drive. They do it in order to get approval from the outside world, be accepted into a social clique, or elevate their own social status…even if it’s not fully aligned with who they really are.

For others, it can mean making major life decisions that set them on the wrong path. They may befriend the wrong people because they think it’s beneficial to their career. Hell, they might even marry the wrong person because of pressure from family, friends, or an internal narrative driven by past thoughts or experiences.

The common thread here is that many people make many decisions that aren’t actually aligned with what they want or need.

They start crafting their whole life into something that looks good on the outside, without asking if it feels good on the…



James Michael Sama

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