You’ll Find These 15 Qualities In The Best Life Partners

(First, you have to stop giving time to the wrong ones).

James Michael Sama
8 min readSep 16, 2023


If you feel like you’ve fallen victim to negative dating patterns in the past, rest assured that you’re not alone.

I have worked with and spoken to hundreds of people who feel like they’re spinning in circles when it comes to dating.

Where are the good men/women? Is anyone even interested in commitment anymore? How can we filter out the wrong people so we improve our chances of meeting the right ones?

Here’s one common thread I find: Focusing on the wrong qualities.

We live in a highly image-focused society. Our social media feeds look like magazine spreads. Our Instagram Reels look like blockbuster movies. Our selfies are carefully angled and lit to achieve an ideal look.

This, among many other societal factors, has caused a shift in what we look for in our partners. Subsequently, we see the degradation of the “LTR” (Long term relationship) and it seems to become more difficult by the day to find someone who we can actually take seriously.

What if — then — we begun shifting what we were focusing on?

I never advocate for lowering your standards and I’d certainly never advise a…



James Michael Sama

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