You’re Not Alone: 7 Surprisingly Common Life Challenges

Are we all living the same life?

James Michael Sama
8 min readFeb 24, 2024


Clap if this sounds familiar: Your confidence at work is unshakable. You’ve been in the same industry for many years and have created what you consider to be a level of success. You are well-respected, receive frequent accolades, and make a genuine impact in your industry.

YET…in your personal life, something is missing. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but you don’t feel fully fulfilled. You’re unclear on your identity, purpose, and sometimes wonder if you’re even on the right path…despite all of that success.

Your relationships suffer — both with yourself, and with others — because of this nagging feeling inside that makes you feel like you’re living someone else’s life.

You’re professionally successful, but personally conflicted.

First, you’re not alone. This is a common thread among my private clients who are seeking a deeper sense of fulfillment and love.

Alright, what’s the problem, then?

That is the question — and below, are a few possible answers.

1: Your identity is wrapped up in your work.

What I mean by this is: You (feel like) you are your career. You are a CEO, or executive, or entrepreneur, or athlete, or professor, or…whatever.

That’s what you’ve been for as long as you can remember. Your daily decisions, hobbies, habits, routines…all revolve around that core identity.

Here’s the thing, though: That’s not who you are.

You are a human being with wants, needs, desires, and biological realities that cannot be escaped. Your career is what you do for a living, but it’s not who you are as a person.

And, when you spend so many years wrapping your identity up in your work, you sometimes forget who you’d be without your job.

So, then, what if the unthinkable happens? What if you get laid off, or your business goes under, or — gasp — a global pandemic hits and you’re forced to change direction?



James Michael Sama

I help you evolve into the ultimate version of yourself. Life & Executive Coach. Multi #1 writer. Trusted by: CNN, CNBC, NY Post, CBS, more. Say hi! @JamesMSama